Everyone does it…tells those “little white lies” in hopes
of sparing someone’s feelings or to cover their own butt. You know the “No your
new hair cut isn’t bad, it looks good.” Or the “No I’m sure he likes you but he’s
just in a weird spot right now.” I’ve been thinking a lot the last few days
about dishonesty, stretching the truth and trust overall which makes me wonder
a few things……..When do the little lies become not so little? How many of these
does it take before you lose trust? And most importantly where do you draw the
line and risk hurting feelings and suffer the consequences to tell the truth,
the whole truth and nothing but the truth?
I suppose the answers to these questions vary from person
to person but I know personally I will always prefer the truth over a lie. For
me I have a hard time understanding the point of lying. This is especially true
when it comes to those who are closest to me. If my outfit makes me look like a
back up dancer in a Lady Gaga video, I would like you to tell me and not let me
leave the house. It’s quit clear to me that if I would rather hear the truth
about the little things that the bigger stuff is most definitely worth hearing…..point
blank.
I know that with some truths you do risk getting people
mad at you or hurting their feelings but sometimes these things need to happen
for a person to see the bigger picture. If you are dating a lying, cheating,
dirt bag and all the people around you are to scared to hurt your feelings and
don’t tell you, you will be more hurt in the end that you never knew.
This brings me to the last point, trust. I have always been
big on trusting the people in my life until they give me a reason not to. When
this happens I respond in one of two ways. If the trust was damaged in a
smaller scale way, my guard is going to be up with this person. I will be sure
not to allow myself to be in situations with them that put me into the position
to have to trust in them. This smaller scale lack of trust may go back to
normal but only in time, after they start to earn trust back. On the other side
is the major scale break in trust. These are major lies and betrayals and in my
mind there is only one way to handle these. Cut these people out completely. If
someone is willing to throw you under a bus to benefit or profit in anyway they
are untrustworthy and not people you need in your life.
I know that the world is an imperfect place and I know
that there will always be people that will choose the easy lie over the truth.
I’m just asking that if you read this, you stop and think before you tell the
lie. Think about the repercussions the lie could have, who it might hurt and
how you would feel if the situation was reversed. Is it really worth it?
A clear conscious is the only way to a happy heart :)
