Deception and lies

     Everyone does it…tells those “little white lies” in hopes of sparing someone’s feelings or to cover their own butt. You know the “No your new hair cut isn’t bad, it looks good.” Or the “No I’m sure he likes you but he’s just in a weird spot right now.” I’ve been thinking a lot the last few days about dishonesty, stretching the truth and trust overall which makes me wonder a few things……..When do the little lies become not so little? How many of these does it take before you lose trust? And most importantly where do you draw the line and risk hurting feelings and suffer the consequences to tell the truth, the whole truth and nothing but the truth?

    I suppose the answers to these questions vary from person to person but I know personally I will always prefer the truth over a lie. For me I have a hard time understanding the point of lying. This is especially true when it comes to those who are closest to me. If my outfit makes me look like a back up dancer in a Lady Gaga video, I would like you to tell me and not let me leave the house. It’s quit clear to me that if I would rather hear the truth about the little things that the bigger stuff is most definitely worth hearing…..point blank.

   I know that with some truths you do risk getting people mad at you or hurting their feelings but sometimes these things need to happen for a person to see the bigger picture. If you are dating a lying, cheating, dirt bag and all the people around you are to scared to hurt your feelings and don’t tell you, you will be more hurt in the end that you never knew.

   This brings me to the last point, trust. I have always been big on trusting the people in my life until they give me a reason not to. When this happens I respond in one of two ways. If the trust was damaged in a smaller scale way, my guard is going to be up with this person. I will be sure not to allow myself to be in situations with them that put me into the position to have to trust in them. This smaller scale lack of trust may go back to normal but only in time, after they start to earn trust back. On the other side is the major scale break in trust. These are major lies and betrayals and in my mind there is only one way to handle these. Cut these people out completely. If someone is willing to throw you under a bus to benefit or profit in anyway they are untrustworthy and not people you need in your life.

    I know that the world is an imperfect place and I know that there will always be people that will choose the easy lie over the truth. I’m just asking that if you read this, you stop and think before you tell the lie. Think about the repercussions the lie could have, who it might hurt and how you would feel if the situation was reversed. Is it really worth it?

A clear conscious is the only way to a happy heart :)